What I’m Learning About the Empty Nest as I Let Go of My Sons

What I’m Learning About the Empty Nest as I Let Go of My Sons

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I’ve got the best sons in the world!

OK, I may be a little bias, but I am incredibly proud of my boys and the young men they’ve become. For the past 20 years they have been the primary focus of my life, along with my wife of nearly 25 years. We’ve worked hard to “train them up” to be men of God and shape them in to responsible, caring, strong and healthy men.

Along the way we’ve done many of the typical things American families do with their kids – school activities, sports, family vacations, etc. I was fortunate to be able to do a lot of the little daily things with the boys, too, like drop them off or pick them up from school – virtually their entire lives. Additionally, we’ve had opportunity to travel the world as a family which stretched their worldview through some pretty unique experiences.

In other words, they came first. Without spoiling them, we always had their interests in mind with every decision we made. I think most parents are like us as much as they can be.

But now, that’s all about to change.

Our oldest son, Taylor, spent half of a gap year in Africa and then went off to college in Chicago. He’s a sophomore now, so he’s been out of the house for almost 2 years.

But we still had our youngest son, Garret, at home as he finished up high school. He graduated last May and has been working and attending Community College this Fall as he prepares for the next big thing in his life.

And that next big thing happens next month. He leaves to spend a year in Brisbane, Australia!

And, with that event, my wife and I become “empty nesters”.

What?!? How did that happen? It seems they were just little boys!

But as they say, “the days are long but the years are short”. And, now, we enter a new phase of our lives as our boys stretch their wings and begin shaping a life apart from us.

Naturally, as this time approaches, it’s been on my mind. In fact, I’ve been thinking about it a lot . . . Continue reading

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