I have to admit, I have a lot of experience in this area. No, I’m not a fantastic Mom, but I have a fantastic Mom! And I’m married to one, also. So I have to say…I know what I’m talking about here.
Of course, I have an awesome Dad, too, which is how I was able to write 9 Ways To Be An Awesome Dad. I’m pretty much an expert on fantastic awesomeness when it comes to parenting.
All kidding aside, there are lots of things that can make a Mom fantastic. And a lot of it has to do with each individual Mom. Her personality. Her experiences. Her unique relationship with each child.
But there are some things that every Mom can do to be fantastic. Here are just a few:
9 Ways To Be A Fantastic Mom
Love God with all your heart.
Just like Dad, being a good parent begins with having a good relationship with our only Father in heaven. When a Mom loves God with everything she is, she is free to love her kids with everything she is, also.
Read more about what I said about this in A Primer For Parenting.
Keep your relationships in the proper order.
We all love our kids. We love to take care of them and spoil them. We love to give them things they want and do the things they enjoy. We make them a priority in our lives.
But our children should not be our top priority in our life. We are to love God with all our heart, but we are to love our spouse as our highest earthly priority. A fantastic Mom does just this. A Mom loving her husband actually communicates a proper relational priority to her children. It communicates the same to her husband, and helps to stabilize the family and provide a good foundation within it.
Take care of yourself.
Yep, we’re still not to the children in the pecking order. A fantastic Mom understands that taking care of herself promotes the health of her family, as well. Whether that be physical, emotional, or mental health, taking care of yourself is important. And, again, it sets the example for your children (and will be appreciated by Dad).
Don’t be afraid to have fun at the expense of getting things done.
We all know that, in the typical household, Mom is the one that gets things done. Right? Cleaning, cooking, taking care of the kids, often working outside the home, and on and on. Mom usually does a lot, doesn’t she? That’s awesome, and hopefully the family recognizes that for the tremendous gift to the family that it is.
But a fantastic Mom also knows when it’s time to walk away from the dirty dishes or dirty house. She knows when it’s time to leave work at work. She knows when it’s time to play, or relax, or just do something that the kids want to do. The years of childhood go by much too quickly not to slow down on occasion and just have fun.
A fantastic Mom does that.
Know your child.
One of the greatest desires of the human soul is to be understood. This is true of you and I, and this is true of every child. A fantastic Mom knows this and works hard and understanding her child. There’s a lot to this, but a few things a fantastic Mom will do to understand her child is:
- Spend unstructured time with them, allowing them to create the “agenda”. You can learn a lot by letting them gravitate to what interests them.
- Plays with them. A child’s imagination will reveal so much about them. Playing with them, again letting them guide the time, will allow their imagination to shine.
- Listen to them. Really listen to them, hearing their heart and not just their words.
- Be quiet with them. Sometimes children just need to “be” – just like you and I do.
Teach your child.
Teach them things you know. How to cook. How to sing. How to do things around the house. The business skill you’ve learned from your work. How to make friends and build relationships. Just teach them.
Teach them your families’ story. Tell them about your heritage – or discover it together. Share the stories of your life.
Teach them the practical things of life. How to manage money. How to take care of the household. How to create a resume. Help them get ready to walk away from your care.
Pray for a pray with your child.
I am convinced that the prayers of my Mom, who has prayed for me daily all my life, have changed me, protected me and provided guidance in ways I will never, ever know.
Engage them in spiritual conversations.
Deuteronomy 6:6-7 says “These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”
What this means is simply to make conversation about spiritual things a regular, normal part of your everyday life. Moms who do this with their child have immeasurable impact on their lives. Impact may not be immediately noticeable, and usually isn’t sudden. Rather, it is consistent, like a brick by brick building of a great and mighty wall of faith in their lives.
What would you add to our “fantastic Mom” list?
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